In continuation of my guest blogger Thursday's, my sister has written me a post for today. She is the 3rd sister in the birth order of my siblings and I (I am the oldest). She is 28 years old and is the only sister that lives near me. She has been amazing through the past year and has helped me through some pretty terrible and sad times. She is optimistic and always helps me to see the silver lining. I am lucky and thankful to have her as a little sis (even though sometimes her advice is as good as that of a bigger sis). :)
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Hello,
I am the blogger’s sister, and I have been asked to write a guest post.
I guess I should just start by saying how excited I am that my sister
and her husband have had success conceiving again. I know the
incredible hardships that they have been through, and I have to say
that my heart broke for them each time they had to relay sad news to me.
That being said, I am happy that they have had some good news, and that
I have been able to attend the last couple of ultrasounds with my
sister and her husband. During
the school year, I am normally very busy; I have a full time job, a
part time job, and I am in grad school. However, this summer, I only had
one job, so I was really happy to offer additional support at these
appointments.
As
an onlooker, I have been thrilled for these ultrasounds. I have
gone into each appointment enthusiastically, and ready to see my little
niece or nephew; however, it has been tough to watch my sister's wariness
and fears of possible negative outcomes. It has also been heartbreaking
to know that she hasn't been able to allow herself to become too
excited, since she wants to make sure she isn't getting her hopes up
again. During the ultrasounds, I have tried to help her and her husband
stay positive. I wish I could take all of their fears and allow them to
feel blessed and ecstatic about becoming new parents, but I understand
their reservations about doing so, given their past experiences.
I
have to say, it made me really upset to hear about the reactions to my
sister's pregnancy, during her last group counseling session. I know
that one of the reasons my sister continued to attend the group after
becoming pregnant, was so that she could offer support to the others
members; however, they made her feel uncomfortable, even badly, about
her good news. It's not like she hasn't suffered enough already! When
they should have been happy for her, they were unsupportive, and made
her feel like an outcast. Don't these members understand that you should
be supportive in good and bad times?! I am sure if
these people knew how they affected her, they would feel ashamed that
they did not reciprocate support. Perhaps they will experience something
similar if their circumstances change. For their sake, I hope that they do not. No one should be made to feel badly about such wonderful news.
...But
enough of the negative stuff... Seeing the little muffin has been such a
heart-warming experience! It is truly a miracle that human life is
formed the way that it is. Reading and hearing about it is a completely
different experience than actually seeing it happen before your eyes!
Even seeing the difference between 5 and 7 weeks was astonishing! I have
been so amazed by this peanut! I am so happy that my sister and
her husband are finally getting the good news that they deserve :)
Because of all of the hardships that they have gone through, I know that
they will be absolutely overjoyed when they are finally able to hold
their own little baby in their arms! I know that I have also developed a
much deeper appreciation for the struggles that couples go through.
This baby will truly be a little miracle :) I can't wait to me this
little muffin! :)
